Accountability and what I call the “friendly accountability loop” is a vital part of disciple making. It is one of the greatest strengths I find in the T4T meeting approach. It is a major key in coaching as well. What is the friendly accountability loop? It is the habit of always starting with a report of progress on actions (application, obedience to Christ’s leading, prior goal setting) and ending the coaching, T4T meeting or discipleship one on one with application decisions of what you are going to do to obey what God has been speaking to you. You always start with a progress report and end with new goals.
I’ve found this simple accountability loop extremely helpful to myself and many others as we put our faith into specific actions. We then make ourselves accountable to others about our faithfulness to do what we said we wanted to do. I highly encourage the use of this, or another similar way of encouraging accountability in a growing disciple’s life. I think when this becomes organic and natural in our lives as believers, we will see it also become natural to see the multiplication of obedient disciples. Much of our modern-day church praxis avoids obedience and any kind of real accountability to put into practice what Jesus taught. Jesus said in the parable of the man who built his house on the sand that without obedience, without putting into practice the teachings of Jesus, our lives are not grounded and able to withstand the storms of life.
There is, however, a danger worth noting in this emphasis on accountability, even if we usually add the important word friendly to it, calling it friendly accountability. I wrote a blog a few years ago about the importance of living in the New Covenant as we pursue the release of Disciple Making Movements (DMMs). See https://fmsouthasia.blogspot.com/search?q=new+covenant. It is incredibly important that in our pursuit of friendly accountability and the making of obedient disciples, we not allow legalism or old covenant thinking to creep in and gain a foothold! It can easily happen!
We can easily start to put pressure on people to perform, to share with their 5 people each week, or make them feel less valued if they somehow were not able to fulfill their goals. We can easily move from “want to” living to “should”, from freedom in the Spirit to a coming under condemnation and the law. This we MUST avoid!
“Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” (2 Cor 3:17). Our T4T, or other disciple making meetings, must be places where freedom, encouragement and love abound. They can not become places of condemnation, pressure, performance and the law. We must be watchful not to allow this to enter in the process of practicing friendly accountability.
At the same time, we don’t throw out friendly accountability and obedience as high values and important movement DNA! It really is both/and, not either/or. We want to embrace a discipleship approach that is loving, Spirit-filled, encouraging, relational, and also one that calls people to truly put into practice the teachings and commands of Jesus in daily life. We want to embrace discipleship based on deep relationships where we are willing to hold one another accountable to obey our Lord, while also encouraging one another that with His help and strength, we can do this!
As Paul wrote to the Galatians, we must not be foolish. Having once become free in Christ, we must not put ourselves (or those we are discipling) back under the law! No! Never! Lets look to Jesus as our example of what it means to be obedient, accountable, and absolutely free!